Lets face it, sometimes life can get a bit much. Whether that's general day to day stresses or something more serious like a death, we're all human and to some degree we've all been there. Most of the time we can muddle through and weather the storm but sometimes we need a little extra help to understand our emotional responses or our feelings towards life or people. Sometimes it may be hard to see a way out or things are just not changing.
That's where counselling comes in
Spending some time with a counsellor can help you to navigate the often confusing and choppy waters of life. Counselling is about having some time JUST FOR YOU where you can share your story and experiences in a way that can be very rare in life. As a professional counsellor, I am trained to really listen to you, to not judge you, to be your equal, to allow you to be you or to help you understand who 'you' really are.
Counselling will always be different for everyone because no two people are the same
Some people simply need to be heard and understood
Others might want to challenge and learn more about themselves to gain deeper levels of self awareness
You may not even know exactly what's wrong, but know that you need support
...It's really up to you. That's the beauty of counselling, it is driven by your intention and no one else’s.
For most people, counselling can be a very nourishing and liberating experience, sometimes even life changing.. but you have to be ready - you have to make the decision for yourself and it can be a tough one. All I can say is that I am a very easy person to talk to and many people have said that they feel very comfortable around me due to my still and grounded nature.
I believe strongly in providing a truly confidential & safe space for each of my clients
Finding the right counsellor
I know from experience that it can be a little daunting when looking for a counsellor... You might be asking yourself questions like “Who should I choose?”, "How do I know if they will be any good?", “Does it mean that I'm insane if I need a therapist?” or “Does counselling even work?...”
"Who should I choose?"
There are many things to take into consideration when looking for a new counsellor and it can be an overwhelming experience. Firstly I would always recommend finding a counsellor that is fully qualified, a member of a professional organisation and holds relevant insurance. The best way is to meet with a few different counsellors and see how you get on. Go with your gut and trust your initial impressions. This is a time when you can share your story, ask any questions and hopefully get to know the counsellor a little to allow you to make an informed decision as to whether or not this is the right counsellor for you. This is also a time for the counsellor to decide if he or she is the right person, in a professional sense, to work with you and what you want to explore.
"How do I know if they will be any good?"
You need to decide this for yourself. Counselling is centred around the relationship between client and counsellor which means that no two people will have the same experience. As in any profession, you get varying degrees of quality of work. The bottom line is that counsellors should act in accordance to an ethical framework meaning that they must treat you fairly and ethically. If you feel unhappy with this aspect of the work then bring it up with your counsellor if you can, it could be great learning. If you feel unable to do this then you can speak to their governing body, such as the BACP.
“Does it mean that I'm insane if I need a therapist?”
No, in fact it means quite the opposite! Searching for, and undergoing therapy is a sign of incredible strength, courage and sanity. I commend you for even going this far. For many people it can be one of the most liberating experiences they will have because quite simply, it allows you to explore your own truth.
"Does counselling even work?"
Counselling works best when there is a strong commitment to it from you. It can be a little bit like peeling an onion, there are always more layers to explore but they have to happen one at a time and only when YOU are ready and want to explore them. I've seen miraculous changes happen very quickly, I've also seen smaller changes happen over longer periods of time. It's really all depenent on how ready you are.
“How many counsellors does it take to change a light bulb?... One, but the light bulb has to want to change!”